The Art of the Sexy Surprise

This top ten list of sexy actions, is found in the book Be Incredibly Sexy: A Crash Course in Getting Your Groove On -- and Keeping It There by Helena Frith Powell.

I highly recommend this book for ideas on finding that inner "diva", gaining sensual self-confidence and getting your head back into the game.

As Helena says, "Don't try them all at once!"

1. After a sedate dinner (once the kids have gone to bed) tell your partner that dessert is on you. Literally. Get the ice cream and spread it all over.

2. Go to dinner at your in-laws' wearing no underwear. But be sure to let him know you're not wearing any just as you get out of the car. He can mull over the fact all through dinner and ravish you on your way home.

3. Rent a porn movie. Nothing too drastic. Watch it together with a bottle of champagne.

4. Go to bed in garters and stockings on what is otherwise a normal weekday. Obviously you need to make sure he sees them! So saunter oh-so-casually past him to get a glass of water or turn on the alarm clock.

5. Go to a sex shop together. You don't need to buy the double-headed black mamba, for heaven's sake. In fact, some sex shops now are perfectly respectable places to be seen in. And you never know what you might find.

6. Fantasize-- you can do this together and it works well. Imagine you're somewhere or someone else.

7. Pounce-- this will obviously only work if you're alone in the house. Pick your moment and pounce on him or her. The unexpected approach will be a huge turn-on. Just make sure it's somewhere less obvious than the bedroom. Go for the bathroom or the kitchen table. Remember that scene in The Postman Always Rings Twice? Jack Nicholson and Jessica Lange covered in flour and consumed with passion.

8. Sex slaves-- promise to be his or her sex slave for the next two hours.

9. Promise him oral sex whenever he wants it. The generosity of this gift will touch any man. And amaze most of them. The most common complaint about their sex life I hear from my male friends is that they can never get oral sex from their partners.

10. Check out a new position on the Internet or in a book and try it out on him or her. But be careful about looking at porn on the web and never leave your name and email address.